Asking Eric: Annual trip was friends-only until two started dating

A reader says his annual Labor Day vacation with a close group of friends is usually a friends-only setup: two rented beach houses, no significant others. But this year, two men in the group—also the only gay members—started dating between last year and this year, and the trip “felt weird” for the reader and others. He worries bringing it up could sound offensive or rejecting. In response, Eric advises that the discomfort may stem from guilt about perceived homophobia rather than hostility. He recommends talking proactively about what the group wants for next year, including whether partners should be included or whether the relationship situation changes.