Asking Eric: I matched with my pastor on a dating app

A reader asks “Eric” for advice after matching with their pastor on a dating app. The pastor is single and, as far as the reader knows, has not taken a vow of chastity. After they matched and exchanged messages, the pastor now wants to go on an actual date, and the reader worries about whether they should reveal they attend the faith community. Eric says they should tell him, emphasizing integrity and warning that a relationship without disclosure could risk the pastor’s job and undermine the connection. The response also notes that curiosity is fine, but withholding key information crosses a line.